It Gets Better

After watching those "It gets better" videos I thought I would just share my story with anyone who actually reads this.

I came out to my best friend the summer after my senior year of high school. I told him because we were going to be roommates when we moved to college and I thought that he should know. After that he also told me that he was gay. We decided to date and during that time I came out to my parents, I told my mom first when my parents and grandparents came to visit me. We had went shopping and when we got back to the hotel room they were staying at I told her that I liked guys, I thought she would have already known but I guess she had no idea and started crying and was not very happy about it. I then went back to my dorm and we meet up later for supper and I guess in between she had told my dad who at the time seemed to take it better than my mom did.

After coming out a lot of things happened, my parents were not happy about my "choice." My dad especially has had a hard time dealing with it. He has turned to religion to try to deal with this, but I really do not think it has helped either of us, in fact it has caused a lot of strain on our relationship, even to the point of not being allowed to "be gay" in his presence. Even though with the difficulties with my parents there are good things that have come out of it.

I decided to move out of my hometown and move to Colorado to continue school and start a new chapter in my life. I moved here by myself and not knowing anyone, it was one of the most liberating experiences in my life. I have meet so many great people during that part of my life, I do not consider some of them my friends anymore but I do believe that they were in my life for a reason and helped me in different ways. I was also able to meet Sean over two and a half years ago and I could not be happier with another man.

There has been a lot of things that has happened in my life, some moments that I am not the proudest of, some moments that I will remember forever, but I would never trade any of those moments because of the good and the bad they have made me the man that I am today. I just want to say to anyone out there who is having a hard time with anything in your life, just be tough and make it through; because I know that it does get better so much better.